Dear Mrs. Sander,

Thank you for your response to my letter about the frustrations I felt with the special education school my daughter was in (Ed. Note: See "The Honest Truth"-Issue #13). Somehow, after reading it, I realized how foolish I sounded. I had calmed down and started to accept the school for that which they are able to provide my daughter with. I realized how easy it was to focus on the negative instead of the positive. Your answer gave me some "food" for thought as I prepared the food for Pesach. I came to the realization that I was seeing things one-sidedly and did not have a whole picture. I actually built up the courage to call the principal of the school a few minutes later to apologize for our past run ins. Somehow, my anger disappeared with my call asking for forgiveness.

I wanted to let you know the waves your response made.

Thank you,
Leah J.

Dear Leah:

Thank you so much for your letter. I must tell you that I did get some harsh criticism from a parent who felt that I should have encouraged and pushed you forward, instead of answering the way I did.

I, however, maintain my position.

Parents of special needs children need to be their child"s greatest "advocates" not "fighters". There is a fine line between the two and it would do many parents well to learn the difference. I am glad you were able to see the light. May you have much nachas and hatzlacha from your daughter.

This article first appeared in issue #14 of Down Syndrome Amongst Us

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